6 Signs You’re Rockin’ Midlife

6 Signs You’re Rockin’ Midlife

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Midlife. So when does that kick in?

Well, hold on to your G-string, I’ve been doing a bit of Googling and, cue the DRUUUUUM ROLL…

Actually, can we cancel the drum roll.

You see, it appears that there’s no consensus as to when you hit midlife. Some experts say 38, others 46 then again, could be 53.   If we were being really scientific about it (let’s not be) we’d work out what age we’re likely to die (insurance companies do that all the time – cheerful job eh!) – let’s say that’s 100, then we’d half that to  50, then, assuming midlife lasts about 40 years, we’d subtract 20 years and add on 20 years- so in that case midlife would be from 30 to 70.

But can we just forget the hard sums…it’s much simpler than that.

You see, Midlife is not an age. Nope…

Midlife is an attitude

An exciting one, with tons of possibilities for travel & learning new things & looking & feeling amazing & yoga & cakes & love & romance & families & friends … and well, generally jam-packed with good, fun stuff.

It’s that delicious period of life when you stop focusing too much energy on what other people think of you & taking 127 selfies before lunch and, instead, turn the focus onto yourself.

I’m not saying midlife is without challenges and suddenly, you know the meaning of life and radiate happiness 24/7. But, hey, it’s a pretty cool period of your life where you tend to know what you like and what you don’t…and you’ll quite happily pass on that, Thank You Very Much.

But here’s the REALLY good news…

There’s no cut-off point when midlife ends

Unlike like car insurance or a packet of Hobnobs – it doesn’t run out.  As long as you’ve got the right attitude Midlife can go on until…well basically, you‘re just about to keel over – if that’s the way you choose to play it.

I know some amazing older people who are smack bang in the middle of rockin’ their life – like my 82-year-old friend, Grandma Williams whose lifestyle blog (which includes a post on Sex Toys for your 70s and 80s – Blink. Blink) has given her a new career.

And I reckon we all know a few, how I can I put it,…REALLY BORING 20 & 30-somethings who are quite happy to sit on the sofa, tucking into Chinese take-out and catching up on the soaps, while they wait for their pension to kick in.

Well, I know who I’d rather have a night out with!

So how do you know if you’re rockin’ your midlife?  

Here are a few clues – and not one of them involves crunching on a Werther’s Originals…

1. Time becomes as, if not more, important than money

2. You care less about what OTHER PEOPLE think and more about how YOU feel

3. Unlike when you were 17 and thought you knew it all, you actually now DO know it all.  

Well ok, not it all…but at least how to get a strain out a carpet, make a mean lasagna and phone the AA (the car one or the drink one – take your pick) instead of your dad/wife/boyfriend/husband/BFF – or all of the above

4. You have a healthy fear of things that used to hold no fear for you

…like bungee jumping, or eating mussels in a slightly grubby looking restaurant or hopping onto the back of a motorbike with a guy you don’t know very well, whilst wearing a skirt, but no helmet. 

No, it’s ok –  I’ll get the bus.

5. You have zero interest in which Kardashian is which, but you know there’s a smart business brain behind the whole pantomime …that’ll be Mamma Midlife Kardashian

6. You talk a lot about eating better and exercising more..and often, you follow through. 

Because…you know it’s good for you. Because…looking after yourself is one of the main priorities in your life. And because…well basically because you love yourself.


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  1. 7 October 2017 / 9:15 am

    The midlife years which I am currently exploring have been the best so far. I have plucked up the courage to do the things I want to do, started a blog, met some wonderful people, wrote books, sent them to agents and publishers, grown in confidence, turned my never used dressing table into a writing desk, got over my dog phobia by getting a dog, grown my hair v long and am happier in my skin. Rock on midlife!!!

    • Jill
      7 October 2017 / 9:40 am

      Hey Lucy thanks for this. Gad to hear you’re rockin’ it. I’ve been thinking of getting a dog too. Also got a bit of a phobia. We’ll see what happen! x

  2. Grandma Williams aka Joyce
    7 October 2017 / 9:25 am

    Super blog. Love the wry style.
    Suspect the boundary changes daily! Depends what you see, do feel like. Sometimes you are still 6! Then 60! Enjoying each phase is right.

    • Jill
      7 October 2017 / 9:40 am

      Thanx Joyce. Had to give you a name check. You’re an inspiration!

  3. Grandma Williams aka Joyce
    7 October 2017 / 9:25 am

    Super blog. Love the wry style.
    Suspect the boundary changes daily! Depends what you see, dfeel like. Sometimes you are still 6! Then 60! Enjoying each phase is right.

  4. Caroline
    7 October 2017 / 9:26 am

    I love this! I’m due to turn 38 in a couple of weeks and mid life has always been rather terrifying to me. It might be because the term “Mid Life” is usually followed up with the word “crisis”. I’m actually in the best shape of my life and looking forward to getting older as life so far has been amazing!

    • Jill
      7 October 2017 / 9:41 am

      Hey Caroline thanks for commenting. Crisis – What Crisis ๐Ÿ™‚ Great to hear your positive outlook. Jill x

  5. 7 October 2017 / 9:29 am

    And that should be a mantra for us all ๐Ÿ˜Š

    • Jill
      7 October 2017 / 9:43 am

      Hey Fancy – keep on rockin’ it! JIll

  6. 7 October 2017 / 9:29 am

    I like this your sparky voice made me smile and frankly I am staying in the middle it suits me to shock the youngsters and laugh out loud when I am not supposed to. But if I could find a way to have the energy of my thirties It would be perfect. Nice post and happy #socialSaturday.

    • Jill
      7 October 2017 / 9:42 am

      Hey Ellen – nice to hear from you. Yes it’s good to shock occasionally ๐Ÿ™‚ Jill x

  7. 7 October 2017 / 9:45 am

    I love this post! All six points are very valid. Just in the past week I was talking to a girlfriend about how we are so much more happy with our bodies in our mid-thirties. It’s funny because I can see this correlating with each one of your signs you list above. Great article!

    • Jill
      7 October 2017 / 9:48 am

      Hi Erin. Thanks for your lovely comments. Keep on rockinโ€™. Jill x

  8. 7 October 2017 / 9:54 am

    Around here, the guys who have the motorbike for number 5 are very likely to be in the middle of their own mid-life crisis and a good deal older than the one in your picture… but you won’t be able to tell that until they have removed their full face helmets and ballooned out of their slightly too small one-piece racing leathers. ๐Ÿ˜‰
    At 50 I am slightly concerned that I clearly remember my mid life but have neatly now gone in to the ‘not giving a f…’ stage – although it appears not enough to type a swear word on someone else’s blog just in case of causing offence to others… so I clearly do give and f… after all.

    • Jill
      7 October 2017 / 10:00 am

      Ha! Yes the guy in the pic is still late youth I’d say! Thanks of commenting and reading. Jill

  9. 7 October 2017 / 10:04 am

    I’ll know I’ve passed midlife by when I end up in some depressing institution dribbling into my soup. Until then the gloves are off! ๐Ÿ˜€

    • Jill
      7 October 2017 / 10:17 am

      Haha! I’m hoping that’s a wee while off for us all Dave!

  10. 7 October 2017 / 10:22 am

    At 42 I am definitely there in the mid-life section! I used to hate the thought of being classed as middle-aged but now I love the wisdom that comes with it, and the thinking of me part too! I still have young kids, so I have to be a little responsible and middle age means I am actually more centred around their well being too, putting them before countless other things!

    • Jill
      7 October 2017 / 10:25 am

      Hi Rory. Thanx for your comment. Itโ€™s a great time of life. Keep on rockinโ€™ it. Jill x

  11. 7 October 2017 / 10:33 am

    Oh yay, according to this Iโ€™m rocking my mid-life! I tick all of those (though I still probably have a fair way to go with no.3). Also, your friend Grandma Williams sounds fantastic! What a woman! X

    • Jill
      7 October 2017 / 12:35 pm

      Hey Hayley, lovely to hear from you. I’m ok with the lasagna part :). Keep on rocking’ it Jx

  12. 7 October 2017 / 10:46 am

    Iโ€™m 52 and Iโ€™m enjoying my midlife to the full …. for all the reasons your great article has indicated … although I would jump on the back of a motorcycle still but in full leathers now (of course) !!! Thanks also my introducing Grandma Williams blog – her article on the sex toys for 70s & 80s was brilliant ๐Ÿ˜œ

    • Jill
      7 October 2017 / 12:34 pm

      Hey Linda, I might actually jump on the back of a bike myself – depending on circumstances ๐Ÿ™‚ Yes Grandma W is fantastic. Jx

  13. 7 October 2017 / 12:20 pm

    For me turning 40 was my moment when things came together (starting mid-life??). It was when I thought this is the package and it is okay. People can now just deal with it and as I’m through (most of the time) making myself into someone else to please whoever. So yeah let’s celebrate all stages if there is growth involved.

    • Jill
      7 October 2017 / 12:33 pm

      Hey Brenda. That sounds great. It’s a total learning curve and all we can do is keep on rockin’ it as best we can ๐Ÿ™‚ Jill x

  14. 7 October 2017 / 2:59 pm

    I may not be quite at the mid-life point yet as I sometimes still worry about what people think. When I get to the point where I no longer care, I know I’ve made it!

    • Jill
      7 October 2017 / 3:09 pm

      Truth is I still worry about that sometime too! But I do care less than I did when I was younger. Thanx for reading and commenting Jx

  15. 7 October 2017 / 3:10 pm

    Definitely rocking middle age and loving it. Best period of my life FULLSTOP ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Jill
      7 October 2017 / 3:22 pm

      Hey Suz that’s great to hear. Keep rockin’ girl! Jill

  16. 7 October 2017 / 4:32 pm

    I am definitely rockin’ midlife! Great post, thanks for putting everything into perspective! ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Jill
      7 October 2017 / 5:37 pm

      Thanx Lisa. And fab to hear you’re rocking’ it! Jill x

  17. 7 October 2017 / 5:50 pm

    Midlife – well I am well into midlife, and will continue with it as long as I am in this world.
    As for: You have a healthy fear of things that used to hold no fear for you – At my age, I still hop onto our Gixxer motorbike, with a guy, but he’s my husband of nearly 40 years, and yes we still โ™ฅ it and keep on doing this as long as possible.

    • Jill
      7 October 2017 / 5:58 pm

      Thanks for reading. And keep on rockin’ and hopping on that Gixxer with that husband ๐Ÿ™‚ Jill x

  18. 7 October 2017 / 7:09 pm

    Brilliant. Made me laugh!
    Iโ€™m 32, but bar the 6th statement I think this is all me! Especially the caring less about what people think, and the zero interest in a Kardashian!

    • Jill
      7 October 2017 / 8:45 pm

      Ha !
      Thanx for reading and commenting, Gemma.
      The whole Kardashian thing baffles me!
      Jill x
      PS much of the time I ignore the call of exercise!

  19. 7 October 2017 / 11:38 pm

    As someone well and truly in that midpoint between 30 and 60, I love this. Some days I don’t feel any different to how I did at 21 and can’t believe where the years have gone, and another day I look at what my kids are doing and feel ancient (because you are Mum they would say!). Chronic health problems have disabled me physically and I can feel like 90….but then put on some 80s music and the years just roll away. Love your style x

    • Jill
      8 October 2017 / 7:34 am

      Hey Claire, thanks for reading and your kind comments. The years do fly past. Keep it the dancing, girl. Jill x

  20. 8 October 2017 / 1:24 pm

    Midlife is what society says it is. Personally I don’t think I’ve reached a certain age and woke up that day and completely changed what I do. I hope that day never comes

    • Jill
      8 October 2017 / 1:49 pm

      Hey Candace – totally agree. Life tends to change gradually and we shouldn’t ignore what ‘society’ says. Thanks for commenting. Jill x

  21. 15 October 2017 / 10:34 am

    absolutely – I’ve re categorised myself as middle youth, mostly so I can annoy the children and not care how much time I spend with the dog walking. I did think recently I actually had more energy than when I was 30 something but I realise I just use what I have better – like you say, less wasted on redundant emotions like caring about others opinions when the others really don’t matter a hoot. Now all I hope is my knees last as long as my money and then life will be just peachy

    • Jill
      15 October 2017 / 12:37 pm

      Hi Geoff thanks for commenting. Knees are always a worry ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜‚. Jill

  22. 15 March 2018 / 8:23 am

    This was the very first post of yours I read and I love it as much now as I did then – I need to show it to The Bloke who is bothered about the prospect of turning 50!

    • Jill
      15 March 2018 / 8:25 am

      Oh cheers Suzie. You just made my Thursday morning! x

  23. 15 March 2018 / 9:17 am

    Ah yes #4, You hold a healthy fear….Yes, I now have a healthy fear of doing cart wheels.

    • Jill
      15 March 2018 / 9:18 am

      Haha. Yes that’s a good fear to have!

  24. 15 March 2018 / 9:18 am

    Such a great post Jill! Iโ€™m rocking it out too and loving life ๐Ÿ˜Š

    • Jill
      15 March 2018 / 9:19 am

      So great to hear that!! Keep on Rocking’ x

  25. 15 March 2018 / 9:34 am

    hmmm… but do we know it all? I don’t think we do. not quite yet. there’s so much more to come.

    • Jill
      15 March 2018 / 9:37 am

      Hey Claire – no not it all, but much more than we did 20 years ago ๐Ÿ™‚ Thanx for popping on .

  26. 15 March 2018 / 9:35 am

    Loved it! I don’t plan on ever hitting midlife because that implies there’s an end.

    • Jill
      15 March 2018 / 9:38 am

      Hate to break the news to you Phil but..There is an End ๐Ÿ™‚ Hopefully a long time off though! Cheers for popping on.

  27. Cecilia
    15 March 2018 / 10:13 am

    I agree! This is what I feel to! I’m 45. Very well written!

    • Jill
      15 March 2018 / 10:18 am

      Oh that’s great to hear. Thanks Cecilia

  28. 15 March 2018 / 11:43 am

    Midlife for me started at 50 – up until then I was doing it for everyone else. Some sort of paradigm shift happened and I suddenly started focusing on what was important to me – what the authentic version of me looked like. I haven’t looked back since and (altho it’s different for each of us) Midlife really does rock!

    • Jill
      15 March 2018 / 12:05 pm

      Hey Leanne – yes I think there needs to be a bit of a head-shift involved. Once you do that everything seems clearer. Thanks for popping by. JIll

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